Although we join the dating scene in order to find true love, the uncomfortable truth is users, abusers and manipulators do exist.

Although we join the dating scene in order to find true love, the uncomfortable truth is users, abusers and manipulators do exist. So, how can we avoid users, abusers & manipulators in dating and relationships effectively?

• Have high standards.

You are teaching other people how to treat you. If you don’t have high standards, you are actually saying, “I’m happy to accept whatever you give me.” This is sad but true.

Therefore, you would be well-advised to set high standards and stick to them at all times. Never settle for less. Truthfully, if you settle for less, you will get less than what you settle for!

As long as you can implement the above-mentioned strategy, you will avoid users, abusers and manipulators in the first place.

But if you’re already in a toxic relationship, please keep reading….

• How to out-use a user:

Out-using a user is simple. All you need to do is to identify what this user really wants – that is the user’s motivation. Then you can use this motivation to get the user to do whatever you want, thereby out-using the user at any time.

• How to out-smart a manipulator:

In life, you don’t get what you deserve; you only get what you negotiate. Let’s say you are in a relationship with a manipulator. You are basically playing chess, unfortunately. Having said that, if you are already in this situation, you have to be a switched-on, smart cookie. Negotiate with the manipulator in a tactful way. Once you’ve got what you want, you must end the relationship immediately because if you don’t leave the manipulator, they will take 10 times back later.